If there’s anything that makes me feel guilty to no end, it’s saying no. I’m horrible at it, in probably every sense of the word (except for the quite literal SAYING of the word “no”). :-).
I hate telling someone they can’t do something. Or that I can’t do something. No matter how rational the reason, it tears me up inside most of the time. Even if it’s something that I don’t want to do, saying no always makes me feel guilty.
I think it’s because I have this thing with wanting everyone in the world to like me. I always feel like if I’m saying no to someone, that person is going to resent me, or be unhappy with me, or something like that. And I know that’s unavoidable. No one is liked all the time. People are going to be unhappy with you. But it still hurts. And I’m terribly insecure.